A Girl in a new Country!

A girl was living in the castle. She had everything she needed inside that castle. She had lot of domestic helps to do the chores. If she needed to go out she has her dad/mom to go with her. Sounds like fairy tale?

No it was my life. I was that girl. My dad used to drop me off at my school or wherever I needed to go. My mom always accompanied me for shopping, movies and even dates ;) ( Yes you heard me Dates. I never went to meet anyone without my mom). I was completely dependent on my mom, dad and lot of other helps.

When I moved here to states in 2010, I faced a brutal reality. Everything is DIY - DO IT YOURSELF! I learnt how to get onions from store, peel potatoes, and yes cook your meal. But then I thought of enjoying this and making it as a hobby. And Yes, Now I can cook 3 course meal for dinner and I enjoy every single seconds I cook. When I make my panini, I put the layer of my happiness on that bread - No wonder thats why I enjoy that.

I never met any people outside of the the place I born. I only know how to speak english and bengali. But here I made friends from different parts of India(who does not speak bengali), Turkey, USA, Pakistan, Germany, China(And yes some of them are my closest friends - with whom I can share anything). I take the qualities, mannerism and opinions that define these different people. I want to evolve, change something and put myself in CHALLENGING situation so that I can start something new.

The most significant thing happened to me is - The Independent Me. It is helping me a lot to organize my life. I do my laundry, assemble my furniture, find my new home, organize expenses! It was very hard at  beginning, because any change is hard! But it helped me to appreciate the things I have, value every single thing at my life.

I realized that no matter, wherever I live I'll be an ex-pat. Living in a new country is definitely thrilling, scary but it showed me what I can become - on my own terms. I am curious and excited to know what tomorrow is bringing for me. I am always thrilled to explore a new place, learn something new about the culture, people, food. I started learning from GROUND ZERO like  a child, started to build and re-build everything. Learning how to live a life is no way different than a child's learning to alphabets.

Staying alone made me talk to myself. What do I want from my life? What I am doing here? I asked these questions myself and answered myself. Walking alone on the streets, eating dinner alone gave me lot of time to think about myself -what I want to do in my life. I have that confidence in me that I can go anywhere in the world I love and start all over again. I can face whatever it comes to my life- I am capable of taking that leap and landing softly.

Just advice to all people who are going to a new country to start their life, don't be scared of the small things at the beginning. Think about learning swimming, how we always had fear of drowning at the first. But once we learn how to float, we sail so smoothly! :)