Happy and Single!

For last couple of months I got asked these questions repeatedly -

• 'When are you getting married?'
• 'Why are you still single?'
• 'How come no one has taken you so far?'

Sometimes I get amused. Sometimes just speechless. 

I remember when I was college, people used to ask me -'when are you going to get job?'. Now people ask me -'when are you going to get married?'. I am sure some folks ask married people -'When are you going to have kids?'

Truly speaking, I think its everyone's personal preference. They can get kids whenever they want, not to shut someone up. I can get married whenever I want. If I chose to be happy and single(YES I SAID HAPPY AND SINGLE), that's my personal preference.

Why people think that a person is only happy when she/he is married to person. I am sure married people have some problems in their life(With due respect to all my married friends). Why do I need a partner to go to vacation? 

I love cleaning my house, painting my toe nails, putting my apartment pictures on pinterest. Is this SO BAD? Honestly I own some things which I am not ASHAMED of that. I am happy being Dolphia. I watch the big bang theory while having ice cream at my couch. I read the all NYTIMES bestseller fiction books. I go to check new places in weekend, cooking delicious meals for myself. I am asking-'AM I TOO SAD?'

So-should I just get married to answer your question? I really wonder do they don't have any better things to do in life? 

I know, I am a woman and a biological clock is always ticking. I am 28 now and if I dont get married now, I wont have kids. And as I'll get older it will be more complicated. So the clock is ticking. Screw the clock! I can find someone when I am 45 and I can spend my rest of the life with him. We can have(adopt) kids if we want. It will be our choice, not you or someone else is gonna tell me what to do...

So, what I want to say - it's everyone personal choice what they want to do in their life. We have no right to ask them 'Why, how, when!'. 

B +

Too many sad posts!!! Life is not that bad ...
Someone said me to write posts about positive side of life. So here is a blog post about being positive towards life. I am sure everyone can relate himself/herself to any of the
'I'.

One:
I encounter so much difficulties everyday. Like - waking up in the morning, preparing breakfast, feeding baby, running to office, work whole day, coming back home, cooking, cleaning.. blah blah (endless list).
But if I think, Wao! I have so much to do in a day. I am not sitting idle, I am not paralyzed. I have challenges but who does not love challenges. I will face challenge with a smiling face and enjoy the moment whatever it is. I will enjoy the work and make the most out of it.

Two:
Oh Snap! I lost my job, what ll I do now? Life is so hard and unfair to me! Why????
Let think in different way? I have some free time for me. I can learn new things, which I always wanted to learn in my last job but I could not. I can apply for new jobs, I can get better than last one. They(my last job) did not like me, so what?! I did not like them either. But the technology I will learn in this time will help me always in my life.
Tough time but enjoyable isn't?! ;)

Three:
I don't have $1,00,000 in my bank. I can't go to spa every week, I cant make luxurious vacation, I can't buy diamond rings, I don't have mercedes or bmw. My friend rides bmw, she has a high carat diamond ring. Life is so good with them not with me.
Really? Well I have some time for my family. I have time for myself which she/he craves for.
She/he definitely travels in first class but does she/he has peace of mind when she/he sleeps?
 I probably don't have a condo apartment but I can make my rented apartment my nest. I wont have to think about paying high loan amount.
I travel in bus, so what? I enjoy that one hour ride to my work. I can read some books while traveling while other wipe their sweat in traffic jam.
Isn't my life good?

Four:
I just had a break up with my boy or girl friend / husband or wife. I have no one to love, to care. For whom I will go back home? For whom I will cook food. I am so alone. I have no one in the whole world....
Thats not the case at all :)
I have a great family, awesome friends, my colleagues. I am so valuable to my company. Why should I be sad for someone who did not care for me? Was he/she worth more than my life, my close pals? When he/she was here, thats great, but my life can be much better without her/him.
I don't have to waste any time for someone else. I don't have to bear his/her cranky habits. I don't have to adjust my time according to someone else.
I can invest all of my time for self improvement. I can pamper myself, I can go for walk late night, I can drive somewhere wherever I want. I can drink until I fall down.
Life was good with partner but without him/her I can make it BETTER!

Five
I hate my job. My boss pisses me off. My colleague gossip about me. I have too much deadline. Argh!! I can't deal with my life. Its so hard for me.
Wait a sec honey! Really? Your boss shouts at you because he /she wants more from you. He/She believes in you more than you do yourself. That's why you assign you heavy task. Isn't it right to make him/her not let down? You are in this position because they thought you would be able to deal this much pressure. They believed in you! Now pay them back and say - 'You did not make any mistake by hiring me.'
Colleagues talk about me behind my back. Let them talk :) They cant come and say on your face. So let them bark.

To all my friends - LIFE IS INDEED GREAT. GOD MADE IT REALLY GREAT. ENJOY THE LIFE FULLEST. NO COMPROMISE :)

A friend in need is a friend indeed

A sudden incident provoked me to write this blog post. Most of the things are related to real life.

There are two friends and they were very good friends. One friend(Friend A) was dying to do anything for other friend(Friend B). Everything was so much perfect in their friendship. They were hanging out together, working for project together.
Then suddenly, Friend B got sick and asked for help. Friend A left all his work and jumped to help the friend in trouble, took him to doctor, got medicine took care. After few days of care and medicine, Friend B got better. He started working. Both were working and were good friends.
Then Friend A got sick and called Friend B for help. He kept calling, cal

ling and calling. No response. But by god's grace he was able to manage himself. Next day
Friend B replied - 'Why were you calling me so much? Don't you know I am working?'
Friend A said - 'I was sick. So I called you'.
Friend B replied -' So what? I am not doctor? You should call a doctor and go there rather than calling me. Stupid people'. And hung up
Friend A learnt a lesion.

Well this story is not at all related to any particular person.

But if we see in our close circle, we will see several people who are in this way. They pretend to be our friends when they need us. But when we need them or when danger comes, they show their real face. But do we stop making friends after realizing this? No. Because that's life. We make mistakes and we learn from it. If we dont learn from it and keep making mistake then no one can help us.

So just a friendly advice - make friends but know your friend as well ;)