Internet Free Weekend - IMPOSSIBLE

I feel like I am too attached to the internet. So I decided to spend a weekend without internet. That means - no facebook, no email, no tweets, no pinning, no imessage, no whatsapp, no ims, no netflix, no spotify and a big list(let cut that short now).

8 am - Checked the phone and found no texts or whatsapp on the screen. My phone is in Airplane mode. So went back to sleep.
9:30 am - Too Bored!! Woke up to read some news on phone. Snap!!! I don't have internet on phone! I cant read news.
9:35 am - Let watch startrek on netflix! Wait! I don't have internet.
10:00 am - Got so bored and finally left the bed. Went to kitchen to make some easy breakfast.
10:30 am - Back to couch after finishing the breakfast.
10:35 am - Calling Mommy! Conversation started.
 ............Long conversation, I have whole day to spend, so i can spend more time on call ................
11:15 am- Apartment Cleaning(Dusting, Mopping and Vacuuming) Start
12:45 pm - Now apartment is clean, time to make some lunch.
2:00 pm - Lunch is done!! Now time for nap.
3:00 pm - Let listen to some relaxing music when I do my manicure. Oh Geez, my music is on spotify.
3:30 pm - Uhm what to do!
3:35 pm - I am so bored! Let read a book. Started reading a book (hard to find any book because most of books are on ibooks). So got a book out of the shelf, which I dusted in the morning.
6:00 pm - Cooking dinner. Oh NO! My recipe is at gmail.
Let cook something simple with less spices.
7:30 pm - dinner is
done and back to book.
9:30 pm - time for some herbal tea
10:30 pm - The day is so long!!! (Thinking) - I have another day to spend
10:45 pm - (Realization) I can't do a internet free weekend. Forget it.
11:00 pm - Switched iphone, ipad back to normal mode.
11:02 pm - Watching netflix !!! Ah - i love you internet

I work for a web industry where we strive to make internet beautiful. But sometimes we forget that how important is internet in our daily life. So, my friends -
Can you spend your entire two days without internet? I can't - but how about you? and if yes how will you spend the day?

A Girl in a new Country!

A girl was living in the castle. She had everything she needed inside that castle. She had lot of domestic helps to do the chores. If she needed to go out she has her dad/mom to go with her. Sounds like fairy tale?

No it was my life. I was that girl. My dad used to drop me off at my school or wherever I needed to go. My mom always accompanied me for shopping, movies and even dates ;) ( Yes you heard me Dates. I never went to meet anyone without my mom). I was completely dependent on my mom, dad and lot of other helps.

When I moved here to states in 2010, I faced a brutal reality. Everything is DIY - DO IT YOURSELF! I learnt how to get onions from store, peel potatoes, and yes cook your meal. But then I thought of enjoying this and making it as a hobby. And Yes, Now I can cook 3 course meal for dinner and I enjoy every single seconds I cook. When I make my panini, I put the layer of my happiness on that bread - No wonder thats why I enjoy that.

I never met any people outside of the the place I born. I only know how to speak english and bengali. But here I made friends from different parts of India(who does not speak bengali), Turkey, USA, Pakistan, Germany, China(And yes some of them are my closest friends - with whom I can share anything). I take the qualities, mannerism and opinions that define these different people. I want to evolve, change something and put myself in CHALLENGING situation so that I can start something new.

The most significant thing happened to me is - The Independent Me. It is helping me a lot to organize my life. I do my laundry, assemble my furniture, find my new home, organize expenses! It was very hard at  beginning, because any change is hard! But it helped me to appreciate the things I have, value every single thing at my life.

I realized that no matter, wherever I live I'll be an ex-pat. Living in a new country is definitely thrilling, scary but it showed me what I can become - on my own terms. I am curious and excited to know what tomorrow is bringing for me. I am always thrilled to explore a new place, learn something new about the culture, people, food. I started learning from GROUND ZERO like  a child, started to build and re-build everything. Learning how to live a life is no way different than a child's learning to alphabets.

Staying alone made me talk to myself. What do I want from my life? What I am doing here? I asked these questions myself and answered myself. Walking alone on the streets, eating dinner alone gave me lot of time to think about myself -what I want to do in my life. I have that confidence in me that I can go anywhere in the world I love and start all over again. I can face whatever it comes to my life- I am capable of taking that leap and landing softly.

Just advice to all people who are going to a new country to start their life, don't be scared of the small things at the beginning. Think about learning swimming, how we always had fear of drowning at the first. But once we learn how to float, we sail so smoothly! :)

Happy and Single!

For last couple of months I got asked these questions repeatedly -

• 'When are you getting married?'
• 'Why are you still single?'
• 'How come no one has taken you so far?'

Sometimes I get amused. Sometimes just speechless. 

I remember when I was college, people used to ask me -'when are you going to get job?'. Now people ask me -'when are you going to get married?'. I am sure some folks ask married people -'When are you going to have kids?'

Truly speaking, I think its everyone's personal preference. They can get kids whenever they want, not to shut someone up. I can get married whenever I want. If I chose to be happy and single(YES I SAID HAPPY AND SINGLE), that's my personal preference.

Why people think that a person is only happy when she/he is married to person. I am sure married people have some problems in their life(With due respect to all my married friends). Why do I need a partner to go to vacation? 

I love cleaning my house, painting my toe nails, putting my apartment pictures on pinterest. Is this SO BAD? Honestly I own some things which I am not ASHAMED of that. I am happy being Dolphia. I watch the big bang theory while having ice cream at my couch. I read the all NYTIMES bestseller fiction books. I go to check new places in weekend, cooking delicious meals for myself. I am asking-'AM I TOO SAD?'

So-should I just get married to answer your question? I really wonder do they don't have any better things to do in life? 

I know, I am a woman and a biological clock is always ticking. I am 28 now and if I dont get married now, I wont have kids. And as I'll get older it will be more complicated. So the clock is ticking. Screw the clock! I can find someone when I am 45 and I can spend my rest of the life with him. We can have(adopt) kids if we want. It will be our choice, not you or someone else is gonna tell me what to do...

So, what I want to say - it's everyone personal choice what they want to do in their life. We have no right to ask them 'Why, how, when!'.